自我控制并不总是对你有益

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Self- control Isn’t Always Good For You

Self-control is one of those things that pretty much everyone wishes they had more of. If only you had the willpower to get up early for a run, to stick to your diet day after day, to avoid overindulging at the bar, to resist the temptation to spend your entire paycheck at America Science and Surplus. But some psychologists suggest that we as a society might be overemphasizing the importance of self-control — and missing the moments when maintaining control is actually hurting us
Restrain Is Holding You Back
That’s what Bar-Ilan University senior lecturer in psychology Liad Uziel says in a new publication in Current Directions in Psychological Science. He isn’t necessarily saying that self-control is a bad thing, just that it’s a little more complicated than just being a positive or a negative trait. For example, we’ve already told you about how wishing that you had more self-control actually makes you less able to resist temptation. Taken on its own, that seems like a good enough reason to stop emphasizing self-control so much.
But Uziel points out that there can be much greater dangers to focusing on self-control than it simply draining away (it’s not a finite resource, anyway). Somebody with a lot of self-control might adhere to harmful societal norms, even if their instincts tell them not to. They might stay in an unhappy marriage, for example, and strictly control how they appear and behave around their spouse.
Perhaps more surprisingly, Uziel cited previous studies that show that people with high and medium self-control are actually more likely to engage in frequent binge drinking. That might be because you can draw on that resource to overcome the pain when your body is screaming, “Please feed me water!” and shotgun another beer instead.
Self-control Only Goes So Far
It makes sense when you think about it: Self-control on its own isn’t inherently a good thing. Your sense of self-control might give you a stronger work ethic, sure, but that might translate as working to an unhealthy degree, to the detriment of your health. Or worse, you might use that self-control to make a habit of overexercising, undereating, or generally avoiding enjoyment of normal activities.
Instead of thinking of self-control as the ability to resist a temptation when it’s right in front of you, the key to healthy control is to know when you can’t afford to be tempted in the first place. You don’t buy a pack of Oreos to prove that you can resist them — if you know they’re your weakness, you don’t keep them in the house at all.
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自我控制并不总是对你有益
自我控制是每个人都希望拥有的东西之一。如果你有意志力早起跑步,每天坚持健康的饮食,避免过度沉醉于酒吧,抵制诱惑,把你的全部薪水花在科学和盈余上。但一些心理学家认为,我们作为一个社会上的人,可能过分强调自我控制的重要性,而忽视自我,实际上会伤害了我们自己。
克制会让你变得退缩
这是美国巴伊兰大学心理学高级讲师Liad Uziel在心理科学的新方向发表的一篇新文章中所说的。他并不一定要说自我控制是一件坏事,只是比较复杂。例如,我们已经告诉过你,希望你有更多的自我控制,实际上会让你更难抗拒诱惑。就其本身而言,这似乎是一个很好的理由,不再强调自我控制。
但Uziel指出,专注于自我控制的危险要比简单地消耗掉的危险大得多(无论如何,不要盲目坚持)。有很多自我控制的人可能会坚持有害的社会规范,即使他们的本能告诉他们不要这样做。例如,他们可能会留在一段不幸的婚姻中,严格控制他们在配偶周围的表现和行为。
也许更令人惊讶的是,Uziel引用了以前的研究,这些研究表明,高、中度自我控制的人实际上更容易进行频繁的狂饮。这可能是因为你可以利用这种资源来克服疼痛,当你的身体尖叫时,“请喂我水!”而猎枪则是另一种啤酒。
自我控制只能走这么远
当你思考它的时候,它是有意义的:自我控制本身并不是一件好事。你的自我控制感可能会给你一个更强的职业道德,当然,但这可能会转化为不健康的程度,损害你的健康。或者更糟的是,你可以利用这种自我控制来养成过度锻炼、饮食不足或通常避免享受正常活动的习惯。
而不是把自我控制看作是抵抗诱惑的能力,当它在你面前时,健康控制的关键是要知道在什么时候你不能承受诱惑。你不买一包奥利奥来证明你能抵抗它们——如果你知道它们是你的弱点,你根本就不应该把它们留在你的房子里。
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